Marriage & Abuse
Have you found yourself in a abusive marriage, either it be verbal or physical? An abusive marriage can be very hard to deal with
especially if you have kids involved and the concern for their well being as well as your own.
You must find the root cause of an
abusive marriage, either it be the way you are expressing yourself to your spouse, down to the level of love and affection that
they are supposed to be receiving.
An abusive relationship usually indicates one person in the couple with a high level of confidence while the other simply lacks it.
This unusual mix can cause distress, confusion and an altercation that doesn’t really need to happen at all. If you are being abused physically, then notify someone of this. You don’t have to stand there and let this happen to you as the years go by. It is hard for couples to magically make up in an abusive relationship but it can be done.
Ask yourself if this has always been going on in your marriage or if there was something that has caused this most recently. Pay attention to the details that trigger an abusive explosion of emotion in your spouse. This can determine whether or not an outside influence is causing this or not.
Questions for Husbands:
• Can you be having a nice time and then out of nowhere she says or does something to set you off?
• Does she have a way of putting you in a bad mood?
• Are there times when you don't want to speak to her or be around her?
• Does it feel like your wife or girlfriend pushes your buttons?
• Do you feel like you overlook a lot, until you can't stand it anymore?
• Does she frequently “do things the wrong way?”
• Do you treat her in ways you couldn't have imagined when you first started caring about her?
• Are you ever worried about having an unpleasant evening?
• Does you feel like you have to criticize her for not being more efficient, reliable, or a better person?
If you answered yes to any of the above, here are some things that your wife probably says about you:
• He doesn't see or hear me.
• He's too moody.
• I feel like I'm walking on eggshells.
• I just want him to pay more attention to me.
• Nothing I do is good enough.
Questions For Wives:
• Do you automatically blame him when things are going wrong?
• Does he tell you that you sometimes yell and scream or lash out at him?
• Do you resort to name - calling, swearing at him, or putting him down?
• Do you belittle him in front of other people or your children and don't know how to stop?
• Do you threaten him physically?
• Do your girlfriends ever say that you might treat him badly?
• Do you threaten to take his children away so he will never see them?
• Are you often jealous and want to know where he is at all times?
• Would your family and friends be surprised to know how you treat him behind closed doors?
If you answered yes to any of the above, here are some things that your husband may say about you:
• She's is just nags all the time.
• She's too moody.
• She's so unpleasant to be around, all the time .
• I just want her to leave me alone so I can do my own thing.
• Nothing I do is good enough so what does it matter?
• I feel like I'm walking on eggshells and it needs to stop.
Learn more about how to give your marriage a marriage makeover and allow yourself to come out and express how you truly feel so that you can move forward with your spouse and overcome the issues at hand.
especially if you have kids involved and the concern for their well being as well as your own.
You must find the root cause of an
abusive marriage, either it be the way you are expressing yourself to your spouse, down to the level of love and affection that
they are supposed to be receiving.
An abusive relationship usually indicates one person in the couple with a high level of confidence while the other simply lacks it.
This unusual mix can cause distress, confusion and an altercation that doesn’t really need to happen at all. If you are being abused physically, then notify someone of this. You don’t have to stand there and let this happen to you as the years go by. It is hard for couples to magically make up in an abusive relationship but it can be done.
Ask yourself if this has always been going on in your marriage or if there was something that has caused this most recently. Pay attention to the details that trigger an abusive explosion of emotion in your spouse. This can determine whether or not an outside influence is causing this or not.
Questions for Husbands:
• Can you be having a nice time and then out of nowhere she says or does something to set you off?
• Does she have a way of putting you in a bad mood?
• Are there times when you don't want to speak to her or be around her?
• Does it feel like your wife or girlfriend pushes your buttons?
• Do you feel like you overlook a lot, until you can't stand it anymore?
• Does she frequently “do things the wrong way?”
• Do you treat her in ways you couldn't have imagined when you first started caring about her?
• Are you ever worried about having an unpleasant evening?
• Does you feel like you have to criticize her for not being more efficient, reliable, or a better person?
If you answered yes to any of the above, here are some things that your wife probably says about you:
• He doesn't see or hear me.
• He's too moody.
• I feel like I'm walking on eggshells.
• I just want him to pay more attention to me.
• Nothing I do is good enough.
Questions For Wives:
• Do you automatically blame him when things are going wrong?
• Does he tell you that you sometimes yell and scream or lash out at him?
• Do you resort to name - calling, swearing at him, or putting him down?
• Do you belittle him in front of other people or your children and don't know how to stop?
• Do you threaten him physically?
• Do your girlfriends ever say that you might treat him badly?
• Do you threaten to take his children away so he will never see them?
• Are you often jealous and want to know where he is at all times?
• Would your family and friends be surprised to know how you treat him behind closed doors?
If you answered yes to any of the above, here are some things that your husband may say about you:
• She's is just nags all the time.
• She's too moody.
• She's so unpleasant to be around, all the time .
• I just want her to leave me alone so I can do my own thing.
• Nothing I do is good enough so what does it matter?
• I feel like I'm walking on eggshells and it needs to stop.
Learn more about how to give your marriage a marriage makeover and allow yourself to come out and express how you truly feel so that you can move forward with your spouse and overcome the issues at hand.
