Are you not getting the attention that you need in your marriage?  I know exactly how you feel.  It is the most disturbing and strange feeling if there ever was another one to match it.  The question is, why now after all of this time?  Why am I not getting the attention that I need. 

I am handsome, beautiful and it was not like this in the beginning.  So what happened?  I have been trying numerous things to engage in intimacy, flirtation and fun adventures to other cities but when it all comes down to it, it is still the same.  Perhaps it is the insecurity from my spouse about her body or something else in the workplace. 

Either way I do not know.  It’s true that in a marriage we have our ups and downs but sometime I cannot fathom the fact of the lack of affection, attention and constant attitudes in the home about a certain number of things.  Perhaps an energy pill is needed to understand this type of dilemma.  I always figure that if there is no energy than that is an excuse to not have sex or engage in any type of intimacy in our relationship.  I tend to disagree. 

If you are attracted to someone, regardless of your energy, you should still be playful and engage in certain sexual activities more often than just twice a month.  What happened to 5 times a day when we first met.  I still have that thrive and that animalistic nature in me but my spouse does not.  I miss that of course. 

I tend to believe that the more memories that are made with you and the family in going out to hotels and checking out new cities and experiences, the better and stronger the relationship can become in the long run.  That is my two cents in this.  What about your experiences?

Marriages fluctuate up and down with emotions and feelings that two people have for each other.  But what do you do when you go through long periods of time and have no sex.  How does that put a strain on the marriage?  Well, sex is a natural and healthy aspect of two people getting married and it should flourish throughout the relationship.  But when you go through those times and allow weeks to pass and nothing happens then there must be something wrong that in that picture. 

Try some other methods of attracting your mate through simple gestures like touching, talking, complimenting.  Often times women feel insecure about their bodies especially if they have had kids previously.  Make sure your wife receives much needed compliments to boost her confidence levels. 

Often times there is a misunderstanding of each other in these cases and to remedy the situation is to set things aside and GET INTIMATE.  I capitalized that for a reason of course. How many times have you both had a chance to be intimate and did not so because of outrageous pride that has been building up for so long.  Alleviate this pride with love and you will see how emotions and attitudes turn around for the better.

If you have been married for about 10 years or more and  you feel that your relationships is dragging a bit, pick it up to a higher level by initiating things and actions that you both did when the relationship was much younger.  Take your spouse top the beach and experience new things.  Bring the kids along.  Always feed the marriage with nurturing water that can allow it to grow for times to come.